Ep. 81 – 5 Mistakes Dad’s Make With Their Teen Daughters: Part 2
In the second installment of their series on “5 Mistakes Dads Make With Their Teen Daughters,” the hosts of the “Empowering Choices” podcast delve into the challenge of emotional availability. Joshua, Lucas, and Erik, all licensed professional counselors, explore why many fathers struggle with being vulnerable and emotionally open, especially with their teenage daughters. The episode begins with an examination of societal expectations of men, using Dana White of the UFC as an example. Erik highlights how White embodies a certain stoicism, dismissing the need to address his emotions because of his responsibilities. “I don’t care how I feel, it doesn’t matter how I feel. I go to work, I do what I need to do,” Erik quotes, illustrating a prevalent attitude among men that can impede emotional connectivity with their daughters. The discussion pivots to the importance of not just solving problems but also understanding and empathizing with the emotional experiences of teenage daughters. Lucas points out, “You’re thinking has changed… But I like also what you’re saying is because there are still going to be times where we can’t see the forest through the trees, you know, like the one you’re standing right in front of.” This reflects the need for fathers to recalibrate their approach from problem-solving to listening and validating their daughters’ feelings. Practical advice is offered on how fathers can improve their responses. Erik suggests, “One of the number one ways that women and girls let their emotions flow through is through talking… and they may in those conversations, emotions rise, tears may fall a little bit. It’s just it’s a part of that process and a part of that outlet.” This insight is aimed at helping fathers understand that listening actively and empathetically can be more beneficial than immediately trying to fix the problem. The podcast wraps up with a broader reflection on parental engagement and the risks of emotional disengagement. Erik shares a personal anecdote about his son, highlighting the nuanced understanding needed when dealing with teenage emotions and responsibilities. He concludes, “But you have to know. You have to know your kids to know if that’s the case. And having good teamwork with your significant other… is a good way of, you know, because if you don’t see it as a guy, but she sees it as a woman that, you know, that’s good to be able to have that pow wow.” This encapsulates the episode’s message: effective parenting, particularly with daughters, requires emotional openness and a partnership approach.
Responses